How to quell
The Blessed Buddha once said:
If in your domain the enemy has hurt you,
why torture your own mind?
This mind lies not in the
Your kind family you left all behind,
why don't you leave your enemy also,
and the hate, that brings so much torment?
We truly entertain and play with this gnawing anger, which brings any good
advantage one wish to purify into sole ruin, complete fiasco and
Can there thus exist any greater fool, than one engulfed in
When someone has done us wrong,
we fly into hot rage and fierce fury!
But why then do
we thus repeat the same evil as we just blamed the others?
If somebody wishing to trouble you, has done you some wrong and vile thing,
Why do you then worry and trouble yourself, and thereby satisfy his wish?
If you are
in rage, longing for revenge, whether you return evil to him or not,
You will evermore torture yourself with pain that always
is the echo of hate!
If, out of rage and anger, your enemy
should do you some wrong and harm,
Why do you imitate
his evil action by growing blind hate in your own mind?
That wrath and hate, through which the foe has done you some unpleasant,
That inner hate, indeed, you should destroy!
Then what to worry about?
Since moment after moment all vanishes, so too will vanish those five groups
and clusters of clinging that have done you harm! Who is it then you're angry
with? Nothing is left back out there in the present
reality! It is all gone now!
If one person hates another person,
whom does he hurt most, if not himself!
We are thus the cause of our own pain,
why then do we hate others after all?
Source: Visuddhimagga IX 22
Give the Enemy a
An almost infallible way to overcome all ill-will
towards the rival, is to present him with a gift!
The Enemy has
been your family many times:
Another method is to consider the fact that the opponent
in former rebirths have been a near relation of oneself!
As the Buddha said:
Not easy is it, Bhikkhus, to find any being that, at some time
in this long round of rebirths, has not been your mother,
father, or brother, or sister, or son, or daughter...
Source: SN 15:14-19
The worse of the two is one, who, when
One who does not retaliate, wins a battle hard to win.
Samyutta Nikāya 1.188
Revengeful thoughts are mental acid!
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