Self-Critique versus Blaming
A good friend asked:
1: How can we avoid self blame, when things are not right?
2: How can we get rid of the feeling of spiritual inadequacy?
Blaming (whether of
or others) contains a stint of hate/aversion,
that makes blaming quite
unsuitable as a vehicle for reconstructive purposes...
Critique/good advice (whether of one-self, or others) should
better be based
on these 5 principles given by the blessed Buddha:
 "Do I think/speak at the right time, or not?
 "Do I think/speak of actual facts, or not?
 "Do I think/speak gently or harshly?
 "Do I think/speak long-term advantageous thoughts/words or
 "Do I think/speak with a kind heart, or
Answer 2: “Spiritual inadequacy” can be
utilized in 2
widely different ways:
To urge one to enhance or stabilize the effort
by inducing a sense
By straining mind by self-blaming and self-hating disabling all
Whenever state B is recognized,
then redirect mind to state A. This can indeed
elevate the mind by adding
even a 'bad', unwanted, wrong,
and displeasing state by inducing a sense of –meaning-
even with the absurd!
Like: “Ahh what an excellent training ground and thus
opportunity for progress
is not this frustrating event!” Or:
“OK fine, but there is definitely room for improvement here...”
The utility and efficacy of self-critique depends on the
1: The mostly greedy, lusty and desirous
one, will tend towards complacency.
2: The mostly angry,
and irritated one,
will tend towards denial, or self-hatred.
3: The mostly confused
will tend towards neglect, or hesitation.
Unfortunately: In either of these 3 cases, the final result is
the very same:
The mental defilements are left
in dominating the mind, whether it
is due to carelessness (1), opposition (2), or disregard
and vacillation (3).
Why so? The problem (inner and mental) is not
SEEN as it
really IS, to the
it actually is present
in mind, thought, speech and behaviour, due to grossly
or completely absent (self) Awareness
Awareness are periods of:
Mind seeing mind for split-seconds, or a few seconds at most...
Mind looking elsewhere
for pleasure for
Luang Pu Atulo aptly noted:
The Mind sent
Outside is the Cause of
The Effect of the Mind sent Outside is
The Mind seeing the Mind is the Path: The Noble Way!
The Effect of Mind seeing
the End of Suffering.
on the 4 frames of reference:
What is Right Awareness?,
Causes of Sati,
4 Foundations of Awareness,